D & A

In order to communicate effectively let the real you communicate. That's the conclusion and the takeaway from this chat. I would now simply say stay safe and see you in a coming chat but, I thought that may be the message is not well received if it is not backed up with examples, explanations and opposite point of view. So why we need to tear off our hiding mask?do we have a hiding mask? And how to find it? We had been chatting for a long time about the communication and its importance. This chat will focus one one aspect of the communication which is speaking from our true self.  When do you feel that you need a hiding mask? Social conditioning had shaped our perception about the others. Those perception are the exact ones that we try to fulfill or hide. Failing to fulfill any of these expectations or falling in one of these pitfalls brings shame into our feeling. The social conditioning through family, close friends, school, work and community had programmed us to judge others as

Well, it seems a little bit weird, If no no one is going to hear me saying NO, to whom should I say NO??? or, why should I say it in the first place??? We need to answer Two (2) questions: Why we say No? Why we won't explicitly say it in some situations?  Why we say NO? We say No as a reply or as a reaction. As a reply we say it in return of Can you..? Would you...? Do you....? Are you....? The last two questions are interrogative i.e. trying to pull some information from you or imposing some answers. When you are aware of the question and have some feeling toward its intention, then you take a deep breath, create a gap and then, try to figure out the best answer.  The other time we say NO is when we express our astonishment that is coming from our disbelieve. Some quickly NO shots are part of our defense mechanism. A Yes, is not an easy answer even. It implies a commitment or a declaration. However, You can make it conditional to create an escape as when you say: Yes, but, when th