D & A

HI, in our previous chat we had explained what we need to think about the YES and the NO . Moreover, we talked about when we retract from saying an explicit NO. You can revert back to out chat here:  Say No, Even without a voice or a gesture. Today, we shall explore more on the NO. But this time we will talk about situation when we don't catch that a NO is needed. This usually happens when we are not fully aware of the situation we are in. This happens when: We don't consider that this subject will affect us We are in the autopilot mode The later is the easier to explain so we shall start chatting about. Do we have an autopilot mode? Yes, And, it is very important to our safety and everyday life in many ways. Many of our reactions to an emergency situation are auto responses as when we press the car brakes, step aside, lower our head or quickly move our hand from a hot surface. If you think about any of these situations you can't really tell how this action was initiated an...

We had being speaking for a while about the forms of communication we practice or encounter in our life from verbal to gesture to feelings. We had also examined broadcasting and direct vs indirect messaging and the communication to living and non living forms in our life. Today we need to find an answer to the question; is there a forced form of communication? Well Yes. And they are many and we deliberately force people to communicate with us and we are forced to communicate to others. In other words, not every communication is running or initiated willingly from both sides. Also, when we are pushed to stop what we are doing and to do something else, that's a forced communication.  But, when we are a part of forced communication? I will give you some examples about the interrogative or detective form: Let we start few or many years ago depending on how many years you were a colleague on the planet earth.We are not all born with the same talkative nature. At home or school we were...

In continuation to our chats around communication, we shall explore together the Internal Dialogue. WE had explored the communication either one way or two way with other humans, non humans and matter. In one of the previous chats we had explored the sources of internal voice. Internally our mind, ego and spirit guide us. Respectively they guide us to what is logically good, what is good for me only on the short term and what is taking us eternal goodness. You can read more about that in this chat Internal vs External Communication Dialogue vs Monologue Monologue is usually expressed in our mind as a dramatic sketch performed by one actor. We can relate to this in our internal communication when we receive an endless stream of thoughts from our mind. Or when our ego gives us a war speech to heat us up to revenge from someone who didn't show us enough respect. Or, a pity speech when we didn't achieve as others. While dialogue has an acceptable meaning of  a convers...

Environmental We can't escape the fact that many items we encounter in our daily life trigger our emotions either consciously or subconsciously. Imagine your morning cup of coffee or the flower scent near your favorite parking location not to say your dearest perfume. All these items enter our energy field that surrounds our bodies and are sensed by our subconscious mind and it triggers hormones in our bloodstream that ignites the happiness, joyfulness, excitement or many other feelings stored in our library of memories in association with this environmental trigger....... Being a conscious trigger or not depends on whether we intended to get exposed to this stimulus or at least related what we felt to what caused it even if we were not intending moving in this direction or taking a sip of coffee now. The unconscious trigger is when we get the feeling but we are not sure what caused it. Conscious triggers on the positive side of the scale When we intend to do certain ...

Filters in action. In a previous post , we had seen together how our subconscious mind plays a vital role in sending and receiving messages from the surrounding environment and, being aware of these filters will give us the choice over the communication process whether verbal or visual ones. We had come to an idea of how to tune our receptors by focusing our attention on happiness as an example and our subconscious will be set on a mission to point to it in every situation or point to its absence so we can be alerted. That's how the communication filters are programmed. But are we the sole programmer for our transmitters and receivers. Consciously YES , but are we living the moment 100% of our time that we are fully aware of any interaction with the surrounding environment? Probably if we are like 99% of human beings then there are some program lines that are passed to the software of our mind that serves to tune our thinking process in favor of someone else. That's why man...

Why we communicate? As we agreed, communication is conveying a message and receiving a reply or another message in many forms more than the merely spoken or heard words. The transmission and reception take place for different reasons. The most basic functional motivation of which is either giving a piece of information or asking for one. Other activators for communication would be expressing a feeling, cheering for or being compassionate to other forms of living creatures not only humans, expressing an opinion with or against, giving a preprogrammed reply which is sometimes nowadays replaced by emojis 👌💓😓. Spontaneous reactions are when we don't process the input message enough to be fully aware of it and then issue a reply message. To be fully aware of a communication we need to ask ourselves on the 5 W's Who, what, when, where & why? Auto-replies pop up in other cases as when we reply a Good Morning or bless someone who sneezes, when we scream of fear or pain,...