D & A

 Do you notice that how do you speak with your partner differs from how you speak to your boss? If you didn't notice till now or if you tried to think about it but you find you speak the same way, then either you are with the wrong partner or the wrong boss. Anyhow, that's not what we are going to chat about today. We shall try to understand the way we speak to ourselves. Why? Because the tone of your internal dialogue is reflected back to your life. How? What you say to yourself is how you really see yourself. This image of you attracts equal and complement energy bodies in your timeline. How do I attract 2 opposite things: equal and complement? It is easy. Universe offers you what you want, that are the things that have equal vibes to yours. You can read more about it here:  Events in Our Environment, are they haphazard?  On the other hand, we are attracted to those who are having some traits that we think we miss in ourselves. So, if you are an introvert and you don't li

هل انت مع ؟؟   ابيض و اسود..   أم   ملايييين الدرجات من كل لون(احمر /ازرق/اصفر..)  ما اريكم إلا ما أرى و ما اهديكم إلا سواء السبيل..  أم  امرهم شورى بينهم..  العلاج بالطب الدوائى الكيميائي..  أم العلاج بالطب الهندى /الصينى /التكميلى /البديل /الأعشاب /النبوى /الريكى /البراك هلينج /....  كرة القدم (كونها الرياضة الأكثر شعبية)..  أم انواع الرياضات الجماعية /الفردية /القتالية /العاب قوى /كمال أجسام /سباحة / يوجا / تشى كونج....  المطبخ التقليدى لموطنك..   أم  المطابخ المتعددة حول العالم (هندى /صينى /شرق اوسطى /مكسيكى /.....)  و هكذا فى كل جوانب حياتنا..  لو لاحظت و تأملت  تجد انه على مدار سنين عمرنا تبرمجنا على المنهج الواحد..  كيف...؟ ؟ تولد فى مجتمعك تتبرمج على عاداته و تقاليده (إلى جانب الانتماءات الدينية /العرقية /القبلية /او حتى العنصرية)..  واذا فكرت ان تغير او تطور فيها تتعرض للاستنكار او  للتنمر او النبذ او الهجر او التعنيف او... او... و هذا ما وجدنا عليه اباءما و انا على اثارهم مقتدون...  تربى فى الغالب على الأبيض و الأسود هذا صواب هذا خطأ أو حلال و حرام او....  تجد نفسك تمشى بخطى

 We had learned together that we hide our true self because we are afraid of being vulnerable. We are afraid that we do not match the social standards of health, wealth, beauty and many other frames that the society bounded us in. Read more about it here : Tear OFF your hiding mask. Moreover, we push our loved ones inside these frames. My baby started walking or talking at an early age. My child is the top of his class in needless education. My partner is the most romantic, powerful, caring, beautiful and so on. The strange part is that we try to match ourselves to all the society norms even the negative parts of it. We turn grayed hair at a  certain age and we start speaking about the age related illnesses and amount of pills we take daily. The positive norms that help us like meditating, fitness exercises, and reading are selected by some people also as a way to gain the society acceptance by being within the norm.  We need to be ourselves. But we need to be conscious if this version

In order to communicate effectively let the real you communicate. That's the conclusion and the takeaway from this chat. I would now simply say stay safe and see you in a coming chat but, I thought that may be the message is not well received if it is not backed up with examples, explanations and opposite point of view. So why we need to tear off our hiding mask?do we have a hiding mask? And how to find it? We had been chatting for a long time about the communication and its importance. This chat will focus one one aspect of the communication which is speaking from our true self.  When do you feel that you need a hiding mask? Social conditioning had shaped our perception about the others. Those perception are the exact ones that we try to fulfill or hide. Failing to fulfill any of these expectations or falling in one of these pitfalls brings shame into our feeling. The social conditioning through family, close friends, school, work and community had programmed us to judge others as